Good Intentions . . . Bad Ideas
No one likes to see his or her friends suffer through divorce or separation. Because of this, many well-intentioned people may offer you advice. It is essential for you to discern between sound wisdom and societal pressure. For example, someone may tell you that the way he got over his ex was to start dating again. This is a commonly held belief, but is it a wise thing to do? Others may invite you to parties, providing you opportunities to drink or even take recreational drugs to help you “forget” your problems. The list could go on and on.
Dating again, drinking, drugs, or any number of things will, in fact, help you numb the emotional pain you are feeling. The problem is that they create a whole different set of problems you will have to deal with. Engaging in new relationships before you are ready will only create more emotional pain. Substance abuse can lead to all sorts of physical, mental, and emotional problems. Don’t let a temporary painkiller be the doorway to more problems.
In a depressed emotional state, many people drop their moral standards in ways that they would never otherwise do. Don’t let yourself be put into situations where this can happen. Surround yourself with people who will help you make wise choices and not bend to societal pressure.