Unsupportive Friends or Family
There is a chance you will have some friends or family who are unsupportive of you during the divorce process. Their reasons can vary. Some may think you shouldn’t be getting separated or divorced. Others may be “siding” with your (ex) spouse. Whatever the case, it is important for you to keep a proper perspective on these potentially hurtful situations. Ask God to give these people the grace to accept you during this time when you most need your friends—and ask him to give you grace toward them as well. Try not to “keep score”, or “get even.” Pray for the people who hurt you and ask God to help you deal with the pain.
The most important thing to remember is that God has not abandoned you. A quick read through the genealogy of Jesus (Matthew 1) will show you that he came from a family of murderers, adulterers, idolaters, and even a prostitute. This is the family into which God chose to send his Son. Unlike some people in our lives, God’s desire is not to condemn us. Quite the opposite is true. John 3:17 says: “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” During this Christmas season, focus on the fact that God sent his Son into the world to bring you salvation and acceptance into his family, not to condemn you for your perceived faults and failings.